Divorce is the second most stressful life event that a person can go through. Going through a divorce can be very difficult, no matter the reason for it. It can make it hard to go through the day because of the worries you are stressing about. Whether you are experiencing stress while you are going through the process or experiencing it after the fact, it can put your health at risk because you are only devoting your energy to something that is no more.
Below are some divorce-related worries that you should stop stressing about to make your life easier:
1. Power Struggles With Your Spouse or Former Spouse.
Communication with your spouse or former spouse may be inevitable even if you are already miles away living from each other because there are some things you should really talk about like child custody, support, parenting style, schools, etc. If a conversation begins to turn into a fight, you can calmly suggest that you avoid fighting and try talking again later. You can also just walk away or hang up the phone. You should refuse engaging in conflict with your spouse or ex-spouse. The unwanted stress you can get from engaging in a power struggle with your ex is too draining.
2. Worrying About Things You Can’t Control.
If you are faced with an uncomfortable situation due to your divorce, just let it go. Take some time to figure out what’s best for the situation and focus on what you have control over and let go of the rest. A good example of this is the outcome of the divorce. You have no hands on the decision of the judge.
3. Worrying Too Much About The Future.
Remember to it is still important to live in the moment. Although there are major adjustments you have to do in your life now that you are going through a divorce, it is important to remember to just take it one day at a time. Plan things accordingly but don’t overthink about the far-fetched future.
4. Worrying About Hurtful Testimonies.
Understandably, it may be difficult to restrain yourself when your spouse is spiteful towards you. For example, your spouse may belittle your parenting abilities during trial from the witness stand. An uncontrolled outburst from you will definitely look bad to the judge and will cast you on a poor light even when your spouse directly attacks your parenting. Any kind of outburst could undermine your child custody strategy and parenting strategy. In such cases, just leave it to your lawyer to draw out the facts during cross-examination and on direct examination when it’s your time to testify. You should not let hurtful testimonies affect you, most especially when you know for yourself that they are not true.
5. The Divorce Itself.
Divorce pain is temporary. It will pass. Just keep in mind that staying married in an unhealthy relationship will last longer than the temporary pain of a divorce. Sometimes it is good to pull the old bandage off so that you can heal and move on with your life.
Stressing about the divorce is normal but it may just be a waste of time and energy. The physical and mental issues linked to divorce can take a toll on you. Something can trigger a thought or a memory and you may experience an emotional rollercoaster you do not need.
You may worry about the money you have spent to have proper legal representation for your divorce, and you may also relive the pain of letting go of the person you thought you would spend your life with. These complicated thoughts and emotions may cause you to wonder and you can find yourself questioning every decision you made.
But, with every passing moment that you focus on all the pain, the worrying, the stress that the divorce give you, you are only wasting your time and energy. You are only holding yourself back from the supposed happier future you could have.
During your divorce, some change will come easily, like finding an alternate route to your office from a new apartment. And then there are some change that will come only with great effort, like working through a parenting plan or giving up the marital home. In every divorce there are so many things to worry about but you must take it one day at a time, and learn to stop stressing about things that are beyond your control. If you are going through a divorce and need expert advice from an experienced Virginia Divorce Lawyer, contact Attorney Tori Bramble now at (540) 628-7340 or visit our website at www.bramblelawfirm.com.